- A passionately lived life is not always comfortable. Going for it involves being open to all of life: the joys, the sorrows, the mundane, as well as the magic, the splendid victories, the most abject defeats. You might even stop closing your eyes during the scary parts of the movie.
- You will have to control your impulse to constantly remind your friends how much you enjoy your career.
- You might have to get new friends. When you begin to live from a commitment to have your life work brilliantly, you might discover that you have outgrown some of the people who will champion their lack of fulfillment until their dying day. Or, as Mark Twain said, “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
- You will lose some of your best reasons to complain. Most of us have a certain investment in complaining. If you think this doesn’t apply to you, try to refrain completely from complaining for the next month. An unfulfilling career is ideal raw material for this hobby. You would have to find other things to grumble about.
- People will talk behind your back. When you are just one of the herd of moderately dissatisfied people, you don’t attract much attention. When your career really takes off, there will be plenty of jealous gossiping.
- You will not be a member of the biggest, most popular club. You will be in a minority and perhaps feel slightly out of the mainstream, like a monk in a bordello.
- It takes more heart, more energy, and more commitment to have a career that really sings. You would have to ask more of yourself, inquire more deeply, put more time and energy into choosing your direction.
- You would have to exchange comfort for vitality. This is by far the biggest reason people pay the terrible price that having an ill-fitting career exacts. If you want a full life, you have to give up whatever addiction you might have to comfort, to not rocking your boat, and to avoiding the feelings of fear and uncertainty that are always one’s companion on journeys outside the safety of the daily routine.
Archive for June, 2014
“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.” – Gandhi
Enhanced personal and professional relationships If you want great relationships, live your life fully. Others want to be around people who lift their spirits out of the petty pace of day-to-day routine. Your enthusiasm will spark those around you, who then become better company themselves. Having your working life be a major source of satisfaction and self-esteem has a powerful positive effect on the other areas of life, including your relationships. You will be more fun to be around.
More successful and more productive There is a close relationship between career satisfaction and material success. People who enjoy their work put their heart and soul into their careers. How much do you accomplish when you are completely immersed in a task that you really enjoy? Compare this with your productivity when you are forced to do something you don’t want to do.
Heightened self-esteem We have managed to turn self-esteem into something mysterious and complex. Simply said, self-esteem is the reputation you have with yourself. How much do you admire people who grumble about their lives, blame their circumstances, and resign themselves to a life of mediocrity? If your career is not satisfying and your self-esteem is low, you’re probably not neurotic. You’re just being honest with yourself! Create a future you will be proud of. Spend your days doing something you love.
A better role model for children How can you teach your children, or any young person who looks up to you, to live their lives fully if you don’t live yours fully? They watch your actions. When your words don’t match your actions, they know instantly that you are full of it. Your children will model themselves after who you are and what you do. If you want to be proud of them, live so that you are proud of yourself.You lead a life that counts. Your career is your best opportunity to make a contribution. Somehow, it’s not the same thing spending your life in a job that is meaningless and then trying to make a difference in your spare time.
You look forward to life. Just as laughter is infectious, so are listlessness, dissatisfaction, and boredom. This ennui will follow you home from work and infect the other parts of your life. Having a career that fits perfectly restores the enthusiasm that came so naturally early in your life.
You enjoy better health, a longer life, more vitality. Other than inheriting good genes and taking care of your body, leading a satisfied, purposeful life is the most effective thing you can do to live a long, long life.
You have a deeper, richer, more authentic sense of humor. Humor that wells up from a core of well-being and satisfaction is very different from the cynical jokes of those trapped in a life of resignation. Wouldn’t you rather have your wit generated by happiness instead of resignation? You might even find yourself smiling and snapping your fingers when you’re stuck on the thruway during rush hour, happy with thoughts of work well done and the joy of living.