You would be wise to honor every aspect and each domain of your life. Many poor-fitting careers result from considering only external rewards like money and status. Consider every aspect of your self thoroughly if you want your work to be balanced and harmonious. Full self-expression doesn’t necessarily mean swinging from the chandeliers. It means including all the important parts of your nature and your intentions. A career that fits perfectly demands that you be who you are fully and do what you do naturally.

All other creatures on the planet, from the lowest amoeba to the great blue whale, express all their component elements in a perfect dance with the world around them. For the most part, only human beings have unfulfilled lives. Only humans suffer from career discontent. But, then again, we may be the only inhabitants of the earth who get to decide what we will do with our lives. Since we have the option to be the authors of our destinies, why not do it well? The reward for taking on the adventure of choosing and creating a career is a life of fulfillment. There is nothing magical about this. It is simply a function of learning to have all aspects of your nature play together in harmony, like the instruments in a big band.

STRESSFUL JOB? A new device and app gives you the key to mastering stress

There have always been tools to reduce stress: exercise, yoga, meditation and, don’t forget sex. Hopefully you’re doing things after work. But what about reducing stress NOW, in the moment, at work? Often times, you may not even notice your elevated stress level, let alone have access to a tool to reduce or eliminate it.

SPIRE is the new generation tracker that measures your breathing to help you reduce stress and also does everything older trackers can do.

You wear the tiny, revolutionary device on your belt or bra so it can record your breathing. There is an amazing range of useful data your breathing can reveal to you, much more than older trackers such as Fitbit, which only use a simple accelerometer. Spire sends data to an iPhone which coaches you to lower stress. In the future, you may want to change to a career that doesn’t stress you out so much. But for now,Spire.

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  • A passionately lived life is not always comfortable. Going for it involves being open to all of life: the joys, the sorrows, the mundane, as well as the magic, the splendid victories, the most abject defeats. You might even stop closing your eyes during the scary parts of the movie.
  • You will have to control your impulse to constantly remind your friends how much you enjoy your career.
  • You might have to get new friends. When you begin to live from a commitment to have your life work brilliantly, you might discover that you have outgrown some of the people who will champion their lack of fulfillment until their dying day. Or, as Mark Twain said, “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
  • You will lose some of your best reasons to complain. Most of us have a certain investment in complaining. If you think this doesn’t apply to you, try to refrain completely from complaining for the next month. An unfulfilling career is ideal raw material for this hobby. You would have to find other things to grumble about.
  • People will talk behind your back. When you are just one of the herd of moderately dissatisfied people, you don’t attract much attention. When your career really takes off, there will be plenty of jealous gossiping.
  • You will not be a member of the biggest, most popular club. You will be in a minority and perhaps feel slightly out of the mainstream, like a monk in a bordello.
  • It takes more heart, more energy, and more commitment to have a career that really sings. You would have to ask more of yourself, inquire more deeply, put more time and energy into choosing your direction.
  • You would have to exchange comfort for vitality. This is by far the biggest reason people pay the terrible price that having an ill-fitting career exacts. If you want a full life, you have to give up whatever addiction you might have to comfort, to not rocking your boat, and to avoiding the feelings of fear and uncertainty that are always one’s companion on journeys outside the safety of the daily routine. 


“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”  - Gandhi
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